Conversion Therapy, What Is It Really?
"Conversion therapy (also known as reparative therapy) is a range of treatments that aim to change sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual. Conversion therapy has been a source of controversy in the United States and other countries. The American Psychiatric Association has condemned "psychiatric treatment, such as reparative or conversion therapy which is based upon the assumption that homosexuality per se is a mental disorder or based upon the a priori assumption that the patient should change his/her sexual homosexual orientation." It states that, "Ethical practitioners refrain from attempts to change individuals' sexual orientation."
When the topic of conversion therapy comes my way, my response is "O.K. I'm ready, let's move on to the part where I meet the girl." Then I could testify to my experience in a new and wonderful life. If I had a nickel every time someone called me "faggot," or "crazy," I would have plenty of money to pay my bills every month, even as I wait for that life-changing girl to come along. The truth of my experience with the topic of the LBTG community is that the only time someone calls me a derogatory "gay" name is when I'm in the process of conveying positive energy to someone who could use a smile. Therefore, the idea of conversion therapy is more of an effort to discourage spiritual fruitfulness then it is to bring a boy together with a girl. So, when it comes to the issue of conversion therapy, what is it really?
Any variation of conversion therapy should make the convert feel at home with the divinity of the soul. That divine inner place is where people learn to relate in a constructive way with one another. We would think that conversion therapy is to build inner qualities to assist in positive social skills. In that light, we would nurture the LBTG community to foster inner fruitfulness, a serene spirit, respect for the sanctity of life, illumination of our divine worth, and positive energy in what is said and done. Those divine qualities need no conversion. In fact, illicit tampering of the divine presence of our inner life increases dysfumction of relationships. Even the traditional family structure is in turmoil now-a-days because of inward barreness, conflict of the soul, a loss of respect for life, irreverence to the Deity, and negative energy in self-expression. We should always nurture, not convert, the qualities of inner fruitfulness, peace, softness for life, the light of our divine worth, and positive energy in self-expression.
In any conversion process the spiritual fruit are necessary to make the transition successful. What would be the purpose of converting the LBTG community into relationships that cause more evil than good? It's comparable to the transformation of the word "gay" itself from once meaning a joyful state of living, to now being a word to brand a persons' lifestyle identity. In a fruitful use of the word gay, any reparative therapy relating to how we form partners should have the honorable intention of keeping the converts gay. A family is only a family when the spirit of love, goodwill, and kindness exist. Our world is plagued with enough dysfunctional families where various degrees of hate, cruelty, and ill-will for one another prevails. The goal of conversion should always be to foster the spirit of peace, meekness, and gentleness within the relationship and through the community. Converting someone into a "proper" lifestyle based on impractical beliefs will incite conflict, harshness, and a domineering attitude within the coupling process. A gay family is one where the spirit of joy, goodness, and faith lives in the glow of optimism. But, illicit conversion therapy results in partners with negative energy for one another where despair, pessimism, and evilness manifests in what they do and say. Whatever our family situation is, the encouragement is to persevere in the divine inner qualities, be patient for the fruitfulness of your prayers, and practice self-control within the trials that come from day to day.
Conversion therapy, what is it really?
- Does conversion therapy contribute to the welfare of each partners' health? Our desire in a relationship should be for an openness to the inner resources that produce fruitful blossoms in each person. Unfruitful conversion therapy would cause each partner to close themselves to the other, leaving no inward resources to feed one another with positive emotional blossoms. Those negative emotions lead to unhealthy behaviors to end the union they feel trapped in, or there are out of control behaviors with impulsive hostility or arguments. Whether in the LBTG or straight community, there is no need to convert the fruit of patience, self-control, and perseverance that helps us to remain open to constructive sentiments.
- Does conversion therapy contribute to safety of couples in a relationship? Constructive relationships want to quell negative behaviors by sharing thoughts in a way that reinforces the tranquility of the union. Unstable conversion therapy would create partnerships that incites offensive behaviors while each person feels uncomfortable sharing their true thoughts, which causes instability in the relationship. Consequently, the result is physical violence, domestic abuses, and irratic acts. In any case, the fruit of peace, meekness, and gentleness does not need to be converted in the LBTG culture, or in the straight community.
- Does conversion therapy contribute to a desirable place of belonging within the relationship? In any union, there should be a regular show of affection to reaffirm devotion to bring new life to the partnership. Misplaced conversion therapy puts people together where one of the partners is dry of affection, not committed to the family spirit, and the "heart felt" union winds down and dies. Successful relationships come through the spirit of love, goodwill, and kindness. Those qualities, wherever they are found, do not need to be converted.
- Does conversion therapy contribute to the illumination of each partners' divine worth? Partnering requires mutual respect for one another's inner fruitfulness, peaceful intentions, respect for each others life, reverence for the divinity of the soul, and encouragement of positive energy in words and deeds. Irreverent conversion therapy is destructive to a family atmosphere by desolating fruitful attitudes, causing inner turmoil, inciting disrespect for life, disrespectful of the mates worth, and instilling negative energy while expressing themselves. In any case, there is no need to convert the goodness of the soul where it exist, whether in the LBTG community or the straight community.
- Does conversion therapy contribute to positive energy in the self-expression of each persons' identity? Successful relationships require the stimulation of optimism to fuel the metabolism of the union. Negative conversion therapy results in pessimism towards each partner, develops degrees of evilness towards the goodness of one another, and induces despair that spreads into other areas of life. Even so, there is no need to convert the spirit of optimism that comes by the fruit of joy, faith, and goodness...whether those qualities are found in the LBTG or straight culture.
Whether straight or gay we nurture the fruitful qualities of the soul, while refraining from trampling on the blossoms of the spiritual fruit.
Some people thrive on denying relationships from forming through the spiritual fruit, and that fruit flowers from a respect for the divinity of the soul. Conversion therapy is a process of converting the LBTG culture into straight lifestyles stemming from the belief that being gay is a mental illness and full of evil. There is a lot of anger, arguments, and heated debate over alternative lifestyles. Even to the point of implying "God hates fags." Their hostility contradicts the spiritual fruit of peace that the universal Deity offers. In addition, the pessimism and negative attitudes towards those who deviate from traditional culture is contrary to, and even blocks, the fruit of joy that the supreme Divinity delivers. The extent of their bargaining is to put a plug in the butt while simultaneously plugging the spiritual fruit from blossoming in exchange for unfruitful behaviors of conflict, fragmentation, and rage. Successful conversions come by acceptance of the spiritual fruit within relationships, whether those divine qualities appear in the LBTG or straight communities.
There is a population of people sharing the belief that the LBTG culture is a massive reservoir of the mentally ill. The attitudes exiting that population are anti-social behaviors of hate speech, intolerance, and exclusion of people living alternative lifestyles. Those attitudes transfer directly through people who refuse to assimilate with those who differ from the beliefs, philosophy, or texts that fuel their prejudices. Indirectly, those feelings flow through people who want to be able to say, "I'm not gay," but they have unfruitful attitudes.
The attitude of developing opposition to the LBTG community enter us because we don't want to face the humiliation of being thought of as having a mental illness. Neither do we want the stigma of being a social deviant. In other words, there is pressure on our sense of worth and place of belonging to conform to "proper" lifestyles. The people likely to host negative attitudes to alternative lifestyles are those focusing more on physical flesh and blood nature of the human animal, and less on the spiritual fruit that flows through the divine presence of the soul. They focus their mind on male parts, female parts, and the reproduction process, but they neglect the qualities of peace, love, faith, and perseverance in goodness.
We can interrupt the cycle of intolerance, exclusion, and hostility to those who differ from our version of what constitutes an appropriate lifestyle. We do that by allowing divine qualities of the soul to flower in us through the spiritual fruit. That fruitfulness is found in good soil that is soft, moist, and tender towards the residents of humanity.